10 ways to be a great Christain Dad

A Christian father is unique and must remember that his children are in fact children of God. I have below a write up from Babywise magazine on 10 ways to be a great Dad

1. RESPECT YOUR CHILDREN MOTHER, One of the best things a father can do for his children is to respect their mother, to keep family values and your marriage strong and vital it is important to respect and support the mother of your children with open show of affection at all times.


2. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR CHILDREN, How a father spends his time tells his children what’s important to him. If you always seem too busy for your children, they will feel neglected no matter what you say.


3. EARN THE RIGHT TO BE HEARD, All too often the only time a father speaks to his children is when they have done something wrong. Begin talking with your kids when they are very young so that difficult subjects will be easier to handle as they get older, take time and listen to their ideas and problems with enthusiasm


4. DISCIPLINE WITH LOVE, All children need guidance and discipline, not as punishment, but to set reasonable limits. Remind your children of the consequences of their actions and provide meaningful rewards for desirable behavior.


5. BE A ROLE MODEL, Fathers are role models to their kids, whether they realize it or not. A girl who spends time with a loving father grows up knowing she deserves to be treated with respect by boys and what to look for in a husband. Fathers can teach sons what is important in life by demonstrating honesty, humility and responsibility.


6. BE A TEACHER, Too many think teaching is something others do. But a father, who teaches his children about right and wrong and encourages them to do their best, will see his children make good choices.


7. EAT TOGETHER AS A FAMILY, Sharing a meal together (breakfast, lunch or dinner) can be an important part of healthy family life. In addition to providing some structures in a busy day, it gives kids the chance to talk about what they are doing and want to do about it.


8. READ TO YOUR CHILDREN, Begin reading to your children when they are very young. When they are older, encourage them to read on their own, Instilling your children with a love for reading is one of the best ways to ensure they wuill have a lifetime of personal and career growth.


9. SHOW AFFECTION, Children need security that comes from knowing they are wanted, accepted and loved by their family. Parents, especially fathers need to feel both comfortable and willing to hug their children. Another to show affection is by hugging and kissing their mother in front of them. Showing affection every day is the best way to let your children know what love is and that you love them.


10. REALISE THAT A FATHERS JOB IS NEVER DONE, Even after children are grown and ready to leave home, they will still look to their fathers for wisdom and advice. Whether its continued schooling, a new job or a wedding, fathers continue to play an essential part in the lives of their children as they grow and perhaps, marry and build their own families

Is there Faith in the World?

As a young man growing up in my father’s house I was brought up by my father to believe that juju or witchcraft never worked or was effective in any way at all. As a grown man I now see that all my father was doing to us is to ensure that we never believed in any way that it was ever effective thereby putting inside of us the mindset that no matter the situation we would never go that way as in being dependant in juju or witchcraft.


During my years of ministry work as a Pastor I have seen and witness a lot of phenomenon or happenings concerning juju or witch craft, it is sad to note that Christian have a lot of faith in it and it is also surprising to note that desperate supposed Christian use it against other Christian and even against families, associates, colleagues and friends. I was told about a ministry where the leader at a convention of pastors and lay minister discovered that amongst them were those who had used juju to attract members

Jesus asked a question in Matthew ”When the Son of man cometh will he find faith in the world”.

I asked a senior Pastor a question does Juju works and he said to me that it works, but the word of God is greater and it diffuses the efficacy of juju.

Why is Juju so prominent in our society today, why do men and women use it and why have Christian resorted to it.

Evil will continue to prevail when good men do nothing.

Traditional Weddings(Phobia)

It’s appalling to see the way the issue of relationship between a boy and a girl or in recent time between a brother and a sister in church and the result of having long courtship due to the fear of going through the marriage ceremony. This fear is not due to a lack of understanding between both parties and for the record nobody ever experience true love until after you get married so this talk about being in love as the reason for getting married is just a joke or fallacy.

So I ask what happens to this love after a few weeks or even days after the ceremony when both parties begin the real process and there now discover that the have different taste and desire, love in marriages takes a while and it come true patience and perseverance.

When you see a couple married for over 35 years then you will realize that it must have come through great sacrifice from both parties and even more from the woman. Most divorces you hear about comes more from misunderstanding and in most cases the failure of the woman to submit but that is another days topic.

Today I am talking more on how society has failed the younger generation by imposing too much demand on the marriage ceremony than the marriage itself, quoting Pastor telling us about his own experience “the wedding party or reception is not the marriage; it’s the couple that is the marriage”

This demand on issues like where to have the reception, the food, the arrangement is not the integral part of getting married, its even more appalling in Nigeria today where so much is placed in the so called “TRADITIONAL WEDDING” So called traditional weddings run into millions of Naira, but if one is lucky you might get a bill of less than 500,000 naira. Most expensive weddings do not last long, its just a photo trick.

This has lead to so much pains and misgivings when it comes to the boy going to the girls place to get her hand in marriage in the so called introduction that is when the boy’s relations come to inform the girl’s family of their intention. This phobia has gone to the extent that the are a lot of saved Christians who are married the traditional way and yet to get married proper.

I know some people think that the traditional is more important but that’s where we miss it, who came first God or man, who handle the first marriage ceremony, God of course, where there any expensive occasion or any exchange of expensive gift. Its time we put things right, we are not of this world and its mode of operation.

Do you know how many young men and women have died in in the bid to travel far and wide for a so called traditional marriage?

In the civilized system of getting married all you require is to locate a priest or a pastor and all you need is your rings and the vows. The most important aspect of marriages is bringing it before the ONE that started it God our father.

As I write I can count at least 26 born again Christians who are not rightfully married in the eyes of God, but have either done the introduction or the traditional marriage and kids have arrived or are already on the way.

I say this to you do not take chances or let the system destroy you, do it right and do it the Gods way. If you can afford a ring and you are sure both of you are in agreement get to your Pastor and do it right, whoever want to be angry that he or she was not there to eat an drink at your expenses is free to get angry. The success of any marriage is based on the Faith of God so make Him your number one partner and live the dead to handle the dead things of this world

Lessons for life

🎩🎩🎩One day, a wealthy father decided to teach his son what it truly meant to live without money, so he sent the boy to spend a few days with a farming family out in the countryside.🛖 The boy stayed there for three days and three nights. On their way back home, as they sat in the car, the father asked, “So, what did you learn from your time there?”🤔

“It was good,” the boy said simply. But the father wanted to know more. “What exactly did you notice? What did you learn?”✍️

The boy thought for a moment and began to explain: “We have one dog; they have four. We have a swimming pool with clean, filtered water that reflects our garden, while they have a river with crystal-clear water full of fish and tall reeds.🌾 We have outdoor lights in our backyard, but they have the stars and the moon. Our garden ends at a fence, but theirs stretches all the way to the horizon.🌄 We buy our food, while they grow, harvest, and cook theirs. We listen to music from our phones and speakers, but they listen to the songs of crickets, birds, and the wind🌪️—and sometimes their neighbor singing as he works the land. We cook in a microwave, but their meals, made over an open fire, taste like nothing you can buy.💯 We lock ourselves behind fences and gates, afraid of strangers, while their doors are always open—they’re protected by friendship and community.💞 Our lives revolve around phones, computers, and TV screens; theirs revolve around family, sky, sunlight, water, and the earth.”🏵️

The father sat quietly, deeply moved by what he’d heard. Then his son looked at him and said softly, “Thank you, Dad. You didn’t just show me what it means to be poor🫂—you showed me how poor we really are, because the more we chase things, the further we drift from what truly matters.”🕺🕺🕺🕺🕺