An unmarried sister came to me with questions as to why she was not yet married and she showed a deep desire to get married. She had had this desire for sometime now but with no result and was planning to attend a program somewhere with the hope of getting a partner.
At first I was surprised and then sad that she had made her being single an issue that required a special kind of prayer session or attendance at a program out of her church to settle it.
Beloved the act of marriage is nothing spiritual at all, it is practically a fleshy desire and it does not need angelic appearance and instructions about which brother or sister to marry.
It is all about your wish and that of your partner brought before God in prayers for approval and blessings.
The choice to get married can come from your own desire or from peer pressure or from parental pressure. Not everyone will get married and also some who do not like marriages may get married whilst the ones who desire to get married may never do.
Any pastor can decide to call his or her ministry any name but I strongly believe that according to the Bible which is God word to us, the reason for our different callings is not FOR MIRACLES, PREGNANCIES OR MIRACLE MARRIAGES but as it is stated in Ephesians 4 verse 11 And he gave some (to be) apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers;
12 for the perfecting of the saints, unto the work of ministering, unto the building up of the body of Christ:
13 till we all attain unto the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a fullgrown man or woman (parenthesis added), unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ.
Sincerely, I always inform the brethren who desire to get married to either see their pastor, or inform the deaconry of their church or the leaders in their fellowship and the proper procedures will be followed in the local church and not outside.
Let us consider whose children got married in the bible, it was not by their own choices but those of their parents or spiritual leaders. The issue arising from delays in settling down trust me is from personal desires and not a devil or demon.
Some just want a partner that has not yet be born or one who should come by special delivery to their door step (pointed nose, straight legs, fat or thin, tall dark and handsome, or endowned with all the right things and most times with a fat bank account).
Like my Pastor told us years ago as long as he or she is born again committed in a local church for years filled with the Holy Ghost, tongue talking with a positive outlook, then such a one is a qualified candidate for marriage.
I am carefull not to permit brethren to go around preachers who are not raising members/leaders in a denomination but trying to preach to members of grounded ministries, what they only succeed in doing is confusing the brethren with doctrines.
Ephesian 4 verse 14 that we may be no longer children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, in craftiness, after the wiles of error 15 but speaking truth in love, we may grow up in all things into him, who is the head, (even) Christ; When we as Pastor use Christians fear and anxiousness to create doctrines and become crafty by using their impatient to now make ourselves their channel to receiving instead of putting Christ as their focus Hebrews 12 verse 1 Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, 2 Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
Beloved know this you are more than a conqueror, the greater one is in you trust the one that saved you and put all your faith in the spoken word of God.
