know ur kids

Culled from BABYWISE MAGAZINE
Usually Kids have so much to say, but no one seems to be listening because parents think they are too young or too immature to know what they want, but I can assure in some cases that’s not true. As a parent you need to know your child [reach into their minds i.e. literally get into their heads] to know how they think and help them make decisions that would stir them in the right direction in life.
Lt is very important you get into their minds because the bible says “as a man thinketh in his heart so is he” and also bible says for us to” guard our heart because it determines the course of our lives”. So you see why it is important you get into their minds, hear their thoughts by listening to them and also make decisions for them[I don’t mean force your decisions on them].it is important as a parent to let your children know the consequences of their actions because in most cases if you don’t handle issues intelligently and advice them nicely, they’d still do what they think is right and get things messed up anyway so why don’t you take out time to help them get it right, like a beautiful lady once said “get things right the first time” and make the world a better and beautiful place.
As a teenager I made some decisions that were not so cool, not because I wasn’t told they were wrong steps to take but I wasn’t told the consequences of my actions and I got things messed up.
Here are some steps on how to get to know your kids move and be their best friends:
1,Love your children-it is one thing to love a child and it is another thing for the child to know “daddy or mummy love me”, let them know how u feel for them and how concerned you are about their well being. Dr. Ross Campbell uses the picture of a child's "emotion tank" to illustrate this point. It's a useful metaphor. Children, by nature, are very needy beings--the greatest of those needs being love. How well a child's emotional needs are met will determine how that child feels and ultimately how he or she behaves. Very often, negative behavior in children is an indication that their love tanks are on empty.
2,Be their friends-Communication is a very vital key here, be your kids best friends, be the first to hear what they have to say before anyone else[their peers] gets to hear about it. Learn to talk to your kids, tackle time stealer, beware of the terrible two “t’s” and one “l” which are television, telephone and computer, if you keep getting distracted by this 3factors you endangering you Childs future. It is true that God gives you children, but you are responsible for your children’s well being, like some parents say “God will protect them”. As a parent it is your sole responsibility to protect you kid.

Little Hint
1. Be their friends
2. Avoid distractions when with them
3. Listen to them.
4. Give them good counsel
5. Let them know the consequences of their actions.
For questions and suggestions pls send a mail to the writer tara_buk@yahoo.co.uk or babywisemagazine@yahoo.com

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A man came for counseling needing advice, what was the matter. He has been married for 5 years, had 4 kids and a pretty wife is into business which he finance when working and she is doing well and paying the bills. The problem is that he lost his job in an oil company for over a year and now he is having problems at home; his wife has told him that they cannot be compatible any more unless he gets a job fast or picks up financially. There both sleep in separate beds for 6 months now and he has had been handling it well, but he now has an offer become a millionaire but become a eunuch what should he do after all. He does not have sex with his wife any more and there has been temptations. What should he do after all his wife can now move along or stay after all money will now be available? Let’s have your views and advice to this man.